That question really put things into perspective for me, so thank you. She is going to dump you. He has no idea now long it actually takes to finish boards and match. I'm glad he's upfront about the difficulty in dating for him. Things are very very difficult at the moment.
I ask myself that every day. The fact that she's planning to go on a mission should help. Be direct and get your needs met. My actual birthday is Monday and he'll be working all day. My wife chose me, but most people aren't so lucky. Alot of TBM women won't even consider dating non members. Do you want a home that is focused on the church with all of the blessings there of or a home that is devoid of the blessings of the priesthood, Sundays without your husband at your side at church with your children celebrating in the gospel. We are best friends, and you will always have time for your best friend. You would be her back up plan in case she can't find a guy who is a returned missionary, preferably from a prominent LDS family. Life is a journey and going through it with a true partner, and a mutual respect for curiosity, is so far greatly rewarding.
I learned that you have to weigh thes things out--is it someone you care enough about to wait for. I can't take it. There have been many times my husband or I have actually said something like "it is good that I am committed to our marriage because this is not fun". All I can say is, "WOW". I don't pity you at all. T-1yr for me T-2yrs for him. Dress nicely, as the girl will appreciate the effort put into looking good for her, and encourage her to do the same. All I can recommend, as a docs wife of nearly 30 years, is prayer or to book a few sessions with a psychologist. Forget what anyone else says or expects of you. We have a 2 year old, 4 year old girlsand our third baby is due on August 15, I would love to have tips on how to get through the stressful time of preparing for the MCAT.
It seems she'll expect you to become Mormon. I am married to an ER doc and agree that having your own life, being independent, and not going into the relationship with any preconceived notions is what makes it work for us. You would think surrounded by kids and being off every day would not be lonely but never having anyone to share your kids achievements with in person is hard. I haven't read every post like you probably havebut I've read a lot of them.
